Friend’s final request creates a burden

DEAR AMY: My childhood best friend, “Lynn,” died after a long battle with colon cancer. She asked me to spread her ashes in Ireland, off of cliffs that we once visited together on a vacation. She asked me this the last time I saw her, and I was completely stunned, but agreed. She died a couple of days later.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune) 

That was nine years ago.

Lynn never married or had children. We grew up together, attended college together, and she was my maid of honor.

Her ashes are safe in an urn in my home, but I just feel so guilty that I did not carry out her final wishes. It’s just not realistic for me to go to Ireland. I’m retired, and can’t devote that kind of money to a trip. I have no other reason to go back there.

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