His ex is his best friend, and she won’t meet me

DEAR AMY: I have been seeing my boyfriend for nine months. We are middle-aged, and are talking about building a life together.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune) 

When we met, he told me that he has remained good friends with all of his ex-girlfriends.

He dated his most recent ex for a year (they broke up a year before we met), but they were close friends for a decade before that.

She is probably his closest friend. The problem is that she refuses to meet me, or to include me in any social activities they engage in. She has since admitted to my boyfriend that she wants him back. He has made it clear to her that that wouldn’t happen, but he doesn’t want to lose her friendship.

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