DEAR HARRIETTE: In the past few weeks, I have learned about several friends or people that I know who have died in their sleep. It is scaring me so much.
These people were pretty young — in their 40s and 50s. Each seemed relatively healthy, though one woman had the flu or some other similar respiratory problem. They have got me so worried, I can hardly sleep.
So far, the doctors have never figured out that anything is wrong with me. I have stopped going to the hospital since they never find anything, but sometimes I wake up or can’t go to sleep because of weird chest pains.
I don’t want to die — or waste time, energy and money rushing to the hospital. How can I know when it is time to go?
DEAR EMERGENCY: It is time for you to get a physical. Go to your doctor and get a complete health workup. Explain what you have experienced and also your fears surrounding recent deaths. Ask for medical guidance for yourself so that you can learn the warning signs of possible emergency situations. Talk to your doctor about anxiety. Figure out if you possibly are experiencing any type of anxiety right now and if you are eligible for some type of medical support during this period.
Ask your husband to be more supportive. Tell him about the people who have recently passed away, and make it clear to him that you are worried because of it. Point out that when he passes judgment over your worries, it only makes you worry more. Most importantly, get support so that you can determine what your warning signs are. Hopefully this will help you to relax a bit.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been invited to a lot of special holiday events this season because I have a new job that is very social. I am excited to attend these functions, but I don’t begin to have the wardrobe for it. I have just graduated from college. I can’t wear the same dress every night.
How can I manage the responsibilities of the social side of my job without going broke?
Dress To Impress
DEAR DRESS TO IMPRESS: Start with a basic black cocktail dress and evening shoes, and invest in a few different accessories. If you change your earrings and necklace, you can stretch one simple look into several. Similarly, you can change your hairstyle, which will help to give you a refreshed look.
You can also consider renting outfits for a nominal fee so that you can temporarily expand your wardrobe. There are several services available today that offer this option, including renttherunway.com, armoire.style and tbdress.com.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to email@example.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.